Strong Not SmallProverbs 31:17

Made to Carry Things

This message is for the reader whose only ambition for their own body has ever been that there should be less of it, and who has never once wanted anything of it instead

Here is a question that I have watched land in people, and I want you to actually sit with it rather than read past it.

Has anything you have ever wanted for your body been about it doing something?

Take your time. Go back as far as you like. And what most people find, when they are honest, is that every single ambition they have ever had for their own body has been subtractive. Less of it. Smaller. Reduced. Taking up not as much room.

Not one of them was about what it might be for.

That is a strange thing to notice about yourself, and it is not a moral failing. It is what happens when the only conversation anybody ever has with you about your body is a conversation about its size.

The praise is about capacity

There is a description of a woman in Proverbs that everybody has heard weaponized, and I want to take one line out of it, because the line is about something completely different from what the chapter gets used for.

She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. (Proverbs 31:17, King James Version)

Read what is actually being admired.

Strength. Arms that can do things. The picture is of somebody gathering up their clothing so they can move properly, which is what girding is, and then getting on with a great deal of physical work.

There is not one word anywhere in that chapter about her size. Not one. Proverbs 31 is a long and detailed portrait of a woman being praised in public, and the Holy Spirit never once mentions how much of her there is, which given how that chapter is normally used at women is worth sitting with for a moment.

What is praised is what she can do.

You were made for capacity rather than for reduction, and the Scripture has never once praised anybody for being smaller. Proverbs 31:17 admires arms that can work and says nothing at all about size, and the Holy Spirit is the one who lets a person notice an absence like that in a chapter they thought they knew.

What a body is actually for

So let me put the different question properly.

A body is for going places, carrying things, holding people, doing work, making things, and being present in a room where somebody needs you. That is the actual job description, and Proverbs 31:17 is one of many places where the Holy Spirit describes a body entirely in terms of what it accomplishes.

And here is what I notice about people who have spent decades in the subtractive conversation: they very often stop doing things. Not because they cannot. Because doing things in front of people means being seen, and being seen has been the whole problem, so the world quietly shrinks.

The tragedy of that is not the shrinking of a body. It is the shrinking of a life around a body, which is a much bigger loss and nobody talks about it.

You are for something, and the world has never once needed to get smaller around you. The written word says she strengtheneth her arms, which is a description of somebody expanding into what they can do, and the Spirit of God is the one who gives a person back a life rather than a shape.

This is not exercise

I want to be extremely clear, because this is the row on this site that could most easily turn into a plan, and it never will.

There is no routine here. No duration, no repetition, no frequency, no target, no tracking, and nothing you are supposed to build up to. If you were waiting for the paragraph where I tell you to start with a walk and increase it, there is no such paragraph and there will not be one on this site, because the Holy Spirit did not put one in Proverbs 31 either.

The physical action today has enjoyment in it and permission to stop written into it, on purpose, because the second you attach a duration to something it becomes a regime, and a regime is a thing to fail at, and Proverbs 31:17 does not include one.

Do one ordinary physical thing you would actually like doing. And stop when you want to.

You are allowed to enjoy it and stop, and there has never once been a minimum attached. Proverbs 31:17 shows a woman working without a single number in sight, and the Holy Spirit is the one who can hand a person something without turning it into an obligation by Thursday.

The breakthrough

So this is what I believe is going out over somebody today.

You are made to carry things, and the only ambition you have ever been offered was to be reduced. I am not flattering you. Proverbs 31:17 praises strength and working arms in a chapter that never once mentions anybody's size, and it is the Holy Spirit and not my telling who makes a person notice what is missing from a passage they have heard all their life.

And this, which is the word I came with:

You have a body for going and for doing, and the life around it has never once been meant to shrink. The written word says she girdeth her loins with strength, which is somebody getting ready to move rather than getting ready to be looked at, and the Spirit of God is the one who gives a person their own world back.

Not a plan. A question. What would you actually like to do.

Declare this over yourself

  1. Ambition that only ever wanted less of me, you are not the only thing available. Proverbs 31:17 praises strength and working arms and never mentions size once, so by the Holy Spirit you do not get the last word in the name of Jesus.
  2. Habit of shrinking my life so that I am not seen doing things, you have no more room here. The word says she girdeth her loins with strength, and by the Holy Spirit I am done losing a world in order to hide a body.
  3. Father, You made me to carry things and to go places. Your word says she strengtheneth her arms, so by Your Spirit I do one thing I like today, and I stop when I want to.

Why we ask you to say these out loud

The word this stands on

Proverbs 31:17

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